Episode 131: The Surprising Connection Between Avoidance and Anxiety

Let me check Instagram one more time. 

Maybe I got an email? I haven’t checked for 10 minutes. 

My glass of what is almost empty. Let me go downstairs for a refill. Stretching would be good right now, anyway. 

Well, that break took a lot longer than I had planned. I got sucked into pulling some weeds while talking to my husband and then decided to make a snack. 

Oh geez, I forgot to actually refill my glass. 

Okay. Back at my desk. Before I start writing, let me check Instagram one more time. Anything new in my inbox?

This was me trying to write this podcast episode–avoiding and procrastinating. For me, this is all part of the process. 

All this month we have been talking about avoidance and anxiety. We talked with Jaquette Timmons about avoidance and money, Erica Drewry about our relationship with food, Bailey Parnell about social media, and Andrea Owen about avoidance, anxiety, addiction. 

Today I want to wrap the month up and talk about the connection between avoidance and High Functioning Anxiety and give you some insight into High Functioning Anxiety vs Low Functioning Anxiety. 

Avoidance and anxiety go hand in hand but you might be surprised to learn how. 

Listen to the full episode to hear:

  • What the differences are between High Functioning Anxiety and Low Functioning Anxiety 
  • How there really isn’t one type of anxiety that is better than the other
  • How knowing where you fall really helps with coping better
  • And how to avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms that we often develop around our anxiety


During the pandemic, I’ll be offering a mini version of my Voxer work. Nothing too intense. Nothing too coachy. Just a chance for you to vent, talk about what’s most pressing, and have a neutral third party on the phone for right now. 

I’m calling it Coach In Your Pocket: Just Checking In Version.

Rather than a 3-month commitment to you completely regroup on your anxiety, Coach In Your Pocket: Just Checking In Version is a simple monthly program geared to help you stay sane during this time. 

Voxer is an app you can download to your phone for free that allows you to record a message to me and then I can respond to you during my office hours.

Helping people with High Functioning Anxiety is a personal mission for me. I have a special place in my heart for this struggle because it’s both something I dealt with unknowingly for years, and because it silently affects so many people who think this is just how it is.  

Working with me this way is an incredibly efficient and effective way to deal with your anxiety in the moment–without waiting for your next appointment.

I have been doing this work for over 20 years and Coach in Your Pocket is the most effective and most life-changing work I have ever done. My clients are consistently blown away by how these daily check-ins combined with the monthly face-to-face video meetings create slow, lasting changes that reprogram their High Functioning Anxiety tendencies over time.

We meet once a month for a face-to-face session via a secure video chat, and then throughout the entire three months, you have access to me anytime you are feeling anxious, having a Monger attack, celebrating a win, or just need to check-in, and I will respond to you during my office hours (Monday through Friday, 9 am – 6 pm EST).

Ready to get started? Email me: and we’ll set up a free 30-minute consultation to see if this process is a good fit for you