Episode 117: You Aren’t Failing, You’re Spiralling Up

Episode 117: You Aren’t Failing, You’re Spiralling Up

Do you ever feel like you’re repeating the same lessons over and over again?

Do you feel like the stuff you worked on 5, 10, or even 20 years ago has a way of coming back, even though you thought you’d found the solution? 

There’s a very good reason for that and, no, it’s not because you’re broken.

It’s because change isn’t one and done. It’s ongoing.

It’s because of a concept that I call Spiralling Up. 

It can often feel like we are relearning the same lesson over and over, but really we’re experiencing a different level of that lesson–new situation, new challenges at a new level of insight. 

Change is like ascending a spiral stare case that presents us with new challenges the higher we climb. It’s not that we are relearning an old lesson, it’s that through life we are being presented with a new and higher level of that lesson. 

In this episode, we’re going to look at how change works and specifically how the concept of Spirally Up can be applied to the life long project of growth and change. How you can step up to new challenges with a new perspective and remind yourself that you aren’t failing–you’re just spiraling up.

Listen to the full episode to hear:

  • How having to re-visit life-lesson does not mean that we are broken
  • How while we do repeat lessons, we don’t unlearn all we have implemented before. We repeat the lesson one step up with a new perspective, new challenges, and new information
  • What to do when we get stressed and overwhelmed and our triggers and patterns are more likely reveal themselves
  • What the research shows about the change that results from our life experiences, and how that change often leans in a positive, helpful direction
  • How the process of change takes an unpredictable, non-linear path 


Working with me using my Coach in Your Pocket is perfect for those spiraling up lessons. You have done therapy, you have learned your triggers, examined your past you know you are Spiraling up but your Monger and High Functioning Anxiety are still running the show. Helping people with High Functioning Anxiety is a personal mission for me. I have a special place in my heart for this struggle because it’s both something I dealt with unknowingly for years, and because it silently affects so many people who think this is just how it is. 

But this isn’t how it is. 

There is hope if you struggle with High Functioning Anxiety—it doesn’t have to be this way. You can reduce your anxiety and keep your edge. You can have less self-doubt and still get a ton done.

Working with me this way is an incredibly efficient and effective way to deal with your anxiety in the moment–without waiting for your next appointment.

I have been doing this work for over 20 years and Coach in Your Pocket is the most effective and most life-changing work I have ever done. My clients are consistently blown away by how these daily check-ins combined with the monthly face-to-face video meetings create slow, lasting changes that reprogram their High Functioning Anxiety tendencies over time.

Over the course of the three-month program, we meet once a month for a face-to-face session via a secure video chat, and then throughout the entire three months, you have access to me anytime you are feeling anxious, having a Monger attack, celebrating a win, or just need to check-in, and I will respond to you during my office hours (Monday through Friday, 9 am – 6 pm EST).Ready to get started? Email me: nancyjane@live-happier.com and we’ll set up a free 30-minute consultation to see if this process is a good fit for you