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Episode 107: Recognizing The Signs Of High Functioning Anxiety

You are leading a double life.

On the outside, you appear to be the most “with it” woman anyone is ever going to meet–calm, cool, and collected. But on the inside, you are an over-analyzing storm of self-doubt, stress, and anxiety. 

Those of us with High Functioning Anxiety have developed coping skills and have become so good at hiding our anxiety, even our friends and family would never guess what lay under the surface. 

But these coping skills have left us feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and still full of anxiety. And what makes it worse, everyone around us sees us as being able to handle anything and just keeps piling on more and more. 

The coping mechanisms that use to help, are now hurting us but we feel we can’t stop because they are all we know. 

“Okay okay,” you say. “But what am I supposed to do with that?”

It starts with recognizing when your High Functioning Anxiety is running the show. Once we start learning to recognize the signs of High Functioning Anxiety and developing the coping skills to deal with our anxiety, we can start calming the storm and finding the ease that we are looking for. 

Listen to the full episode to learn about:

The 10 Symptoms of High Functioning Anxiety.

  • Procrastination
  • Seeking constant reassurance, AKA Praise me, please!
  • Control freak
  • Busy busy busy
  • Lots of negative self-talk
  • Fear of letting people down
  • Lack of sleep
  • Numbing 
  • Physical symptoms
  • Everything is “fine!”

And some tips on what to do about it.

  • Be kind to yourself. Remind yourself that you are human and that this doesn’t mean that you are broken or flawed
  • Be curious about how you are feeling and make checking in with yourself a habit
  • Make the time throughout the day to regularly get out of your head and into your body

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