Episode 106: The Benefits Of High Functioning Anxiety Are Destroying You

To your family, friends, and coworkers, you’re the one who always has it together. 

You look out for all the details, attend all the meetings, make sure the bills get paid and plan the next vacation to Disney.

On the inside, you’re wondering if you’re the only one who cares or is even capable of getting things done. 

If you don’t do this, no one else will. 

Everything you have, you have because you were willing to be the one who went the extra mile. 


Living and thinking this way isn’t sustainable. This level of control and anxiety is negatively affecting your relationships and your health, both mentally and physically.

And it doesn’t have to be this way. 

Yes, we are the ones taking care of business and yes on the outside, those of us with High Functioning Anxiety appear calm, focused, and on top of it. 

But this isn’t what’s going on in the inside. Inside we are stressed, angry, and resentful that no one else cares as much as we do.

The challenge is that we are hooked. The benefits of High Functioning Anxiety are the things you’ve accomplished, the accolades you’ve won, and the praise you receive from the outside world for being so with it. We live off of this. 

This can’t last. While we appear to have everything under control at the end of the day, what we really crave––a sense of calm and ease––is still painfully out of reach. 

In today’s episode of the Happier Approach, I discuss:

  • Making time to center ourselves so we are prepared for the chaos of the day
  • Creating boundaries so that work doesn’t encroach upon our personal lives
  • How to slow down and be present so we can more thoroughly engage and enjoy our daily lives
  • A.S.K.:
    • Acknowledging what you are feeling
    • Slowing down and getting into your body
    • And Kindly pulling back to see the bigger picture
  • And how learning to know our values and live with intention while being kind to ourselves can help our anxiety from taking over.

The solutions the personal growth industry sells leave women living with hidden anxiety–women like you–with more stuff to be anxious about. Even worse, it can turn you off from getting help completely.

I want to help you dial back the overwhelm and overthinking with a set of tools designed just for people like you. It’s not woo-woo. It’s not trying to positively think your challenges away. And I’m certainly not going to tell you to start living your best life.

I work one-on-one with women like you to deconstruct why anxiety creeps up on you and give you something to do about it. Click here to learn more about working with me through on-demand coaching!