Archive for the Category: Meet Your Biggest Fan

Posted June 14, 2020 by

Last week I wrote that listen, learn, make corrections is my new motto. I heard that somewhere on social media and absolutely loved it. Not just in relation to what is happening in our larger world with the protests and the societal realizations around systemic racism, but in my day to day life. Listen, learn, make corrections is […]

Posted May 31, 2020 by

When I first started counseling people, I was a fan of simple fixes and actionable strategies, which totally fits the profile of someone with high functioning anxiety. Get in, get it taken care of, get out. However, the more I do this work with shame, mongers, and high functioning anxiety, the more I am amazed […]

Posted May 24, 2020 by

I just can’t get over what a strange time we are living in. I mean, totally strange. It is a holiday weekend for goodness sake and it doesn’t even feel like it, maybe because it has rained non-stop here for days, but mostly because there are no pools opening, no picnics planned, no graduations, no […]

Posted May 10, 2020 by

This week has been particularly challenging for a variety of reasons, both physically and emotionally. My friend has texted me every day to see how I am doing and to remind me to be kind to myself. When I read her text yesterday and saw the “be kind” sentiment, I thought yeah, yeah, yeah… be […]

Posted April 19, 2020 by

In talking with clients, checking in with myself, and observing social media, the one thing that is consistent these days is that our Mongers have been L.O.U.D. Belittling, berating, and shaming. She has been on the warpath. Too often we take that voice as truth, so today I wanted to share another perspective. The voice […]

Posted January 19, 2020 by

Earlier this week, I had a really great day. I had a few work successes and some amazing conversations. All and all it was a good day, but I have to confess, good days are hard for me. Celebrating a win without naming where I can improve is challenging. As I was cooking dinner, I […]

Posted December 19, 2019 by

She holds the goals of your Monger (to be safe and secure) without shaming and belittling you. She provides the support and encouragement of your BFF (“you are awesome”) without giving you a free pass to do whatever you want.

Your Biggest Fan always has your back, acknowledges your feelings, can see options, is wise about the struggle, and uses your values as guiding principles.

Posted August 25, 2019 by

Years ago when I started teaching about the Monger and ‘that negative voice in my head’ I would spend a lot of time talking about the Monger and never talked about the counter to the Monger, what I now call the Biggest Fan. Truthfully, this is because my Biggest Fan’s voice was so quiet and […]

Posted June 24, 2018 by

A different look at The Happier Approach characters not just how we talk to ourselves but how we interact with others. Which character are you? How do you interact with those around you? Press  to Listen Links: The Happier Approach Book Like the podcast? Leave a review on iTunes or Stitcher Transcript: This is Episode 88. […]

Posted November 6, 2016 by

“There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread.”  –Mother Theresa I love the quotes that make you pause and think, this would be one of them.  I have written on this blog about kindness and appreciation, even about love.  I wonder at times what keeps us from embracing the […]