Archive for the Category: Meet Your BFF

Posted August 23, 2020 by

A challenge in writing weekly helpful content for an audience of High Functioning Anxiety folks is it is hard to get past what I call the “shield of the Monger and the BFF.” Here is how the shield works: You read a self-help article let’s say it is about setting boundaries and your Monger says, […]

Posted June 7, 2020 by

Let me introduce myself – I am a white, upper middle class, liberal American woman. I am steeped in bias. I am fearful of doing it wrong. I am embarrassed for being so slow to step up and act. I feel ignorant, fragile, and stupid for feeling ignorant and fragile. I feel overwhelmed that the […]

Posted May 24, 2020 by

I just can’t get over what a strange time we are living in. I mean, totally strange. It is a holiday weekend for goodness sake and it doesn’t even feel like it, maybe because it has rained non-stop here for days, but mostly because there are no pools opening, no picnics planned, no graduations, no […]

Posted January 12, 2020 by

Fear. It is a common theme when it comes to any type of change. Fear of the unknown. Fear of failure. Fear of success. Fear of just making a fool of yourself.   Regardless of what the fear is, if we are contemplating a change, it is usually there. There is only one way to fight […]

Posted December 12, 2019 by

Our BFF enables us to rebel against the voice of our Monger. When we get tired of our Monger criticizing us, we bring in our BFF for a little self-compassion.

Our BFF is the one who always has our back. She is the type of BFF who is always willing to risk getting into trouble and is always there to defend us.

But she is not about holding our feet to the fire or keeping us accountable.

Posted October 27, 2019 by

We all know that real change is slow. And yet, when change is slow, we beat ourselves up for doing it wrong. The marketing industry has convinced us change is fast, and if you aren’t changing fast, you are doing it wrong. We KNOW losing weight .5 to 1 lb. a week is healthier and […]

Posted October 13, 2019 by

One of the ways we protect ourselves from the judgment of our Monger (inner critic) is to start judging other people. In my book The Happier Approach I talk about three characters: The Monger (inner critic), The BFF (false self-compassion), and our Biggest Fan (the voice of wisdom and kindness). Today I want to talk […]

Posted June 24, 2018 by

A different look at The Happier Approach characters not just how we talk to ourselves but how we interact with others. Which character are you? How do you interact with those around you? Press  to Listen Links: The Happier Approach Book Like the podcast? Leave a review on iTunes or Stitcher Transcript: This is Episode 88. […]

Posted October 5, 2014 by

The point when I truly started Living Happier and building anxiety resilience was when I started taking control of my life.  As with most of the motivational sayings in life, “Stop Living Your Life for Everyone Else” is easy to say. But what does it mean?  What does it really look like to run your life? Here are […]