Archive for the Category: Blog

Posted April 11, 2021 by

A few years ago, while visiting one of our closest friends in the Outerbanks, we decided to go paddleboarding. This was my first time paddleboarding, and leading up to the event, I was nervous. My Monger had some objective evidence about my lack of athletic abilities, so she was chatty. In true High Functioning Anxiety […]

Posted April 4, 2021 by

Shame is a HUGE part of High Functioning Anxiety. Practicing self-loyalty is a key to healing that shame and therefore quieting our High Functioning Anxiety. I love talking about self-loyalty because it is a process—I think of it like an onion. When you have spent your whole life being loyal to others, e.g., reading the […]

Posted March 28, 2021 by

When I first started dating my husband, Doug, he was the Manager of the Aquatics Department at a local gym. Doug was a competitive swimmer in high school and is passionate about swimming; I mean PASSIONATE. I on the other hand see the pool as a place to play. I am very comfortable jumping off […]

Posted March 21, 2021 by

Don’t stand out. Don’t be too vulnerable. Don’t make a mistake. Those are the three rules of the Monger (inner critic). She has others—but universally, those are her three rules. Last Sunday I broke the first two rules—I stood out, and I was vulnerable, and I wanted to share how my Monger let me know […]

Posted March 14, 2021 by

At the start of the week, my plan for this letter was to discuss Oprah’s interview with Meghan and Harry. Sharing how that conversation highlighted the importance of mental health and how we should be respectful of people’s mental health struggles. I would have written that message and tied it up in a neat little […]

Posted March 7, 2021 by

Years ago, a friend and I were having coffee at a local Starbucks (aw, I miss those days). As we sipped our latte’s and caught on the ups and downs of our lives, she was sharing about her daughter’s test-taking anxiety. She described how her daughter would just break down in tears anytime she had […]

Posted February 28, 2021 by

Sometimes with high functioning anxiety, we feel so alone as if we are the only ones experiencing this mind jibberish. Today, I wanted to share some stories of how anxiety and the Monger have shown up this week for my clients, myself, and my friends (the names are made up the names!) The more we […]

Posted February 21, 2021 by

In my late 20s, while in graduate school, I took a full-time job at a local university. I had two different responsibilities working in the Career Services Office, helping students with their careers, and living in and managing the upper-class apartment complex. The job was a mix of apartment manager, rule enforcer, and big sister. […]

Posted February 14, 2021 by

Throughout my life, one of my go-to strategies for dealing with my anxiety is through people-pleasing. My Monger tells me, that if everyone around me was happy, I will feel less anxiety. As part of this belief, I convince myself that everyone else’s needs are more important because if their needs are met, they won’t […]

Posted February 7, 2021 by

For people with High Functioning Anxiety, denying stress is a way of life. We pride ourselves on being able to handle stressful situations. The reason I talk about “soldiering on” and “suck it up, buttercup” is whenever I have a stressful event, those are my default phrases. Pretending as if everything is fine is a […]