Archive for the Category: Blog

Posted July 26, 2020 by

Today I am wrapping up the three lies we tell ourselves. Lately, I have noticed with myself, and my clients there are lies we tell ourselves to keep ourselves in the unhealthy cycle of over-functioning—feel anxiety/shame—keep over functioning. We tell ourselves these lies with positive intent: get more done and avoid feeling anxious. But these […]

Posted July 11, 2020 by

Earlier this week I decided we need a collective High Functioning Anxiety intervention 🙂 Lately, I have noticed with myself, and my clients there are lies we tell ourselves to keep ourselves in the unhealthy cycle of over-functioning—feel anxiety/shame—keep over functioning. We tell ourselves these lies with positive intent: get more done and avoid feeling […]

Posted June 28, 2020 by

“So are you going to take some time off around the Fourth of July holiday?” my husband asked recently. I stopped and paused. There were a couple of vacations planned in the spring that got canceled due to COVID and I just worked through them. My husband went on, “I mean, you haven’t really stopped […]

Posted June 21, 2020 by

Feelings is the ultimate F word, or at least that is how I felt about feelings for a long time. Ironic that I am using Father’s Day to talk about feelings. For many of us, this can be an emotionally charged day whether we want to admit it or not. Parents, family, mothers, fathers bring […]

Posted June 14, 2020 by

Last week I wrote that listen, learn, make corrections is my new motto. I heard that somewhere on social media and absolutely loved it. Not just in relation to what is happening in our larger world with the protests and the societal realizations around systemic racism, but in my day to day life. Listen, learn, make corrections is […]

Posted June 7, 2020 by

Let me introduce myself – I am a white, upper middle class, liberal American woman. I am steeped in bias. I am fearful of doing it wrong. I am embarrassed for being so slow to step up and act. I feel ignorant, fragile, and stupid for feeling ignorant and fragile. I feel overwhelmed that the […]

Posted May 31, 2020 by

When I first started counseling people, I was a fan of simple fixes and actionable strategies, which totally fits the profile of someone with high functioning anxiety. Get in, get it taken care of, get out. However, the more I do this work with shame, mongers, and high functioning anxiety, the more I am amazed […]

Posted May 24, 2020 by

I just can’t get over what a strange time we are living in. I mean, totally strange. It is a holiday weekend for goodness sake and it doesn’t even feel like it, maybe because it has rained non-stop here for days, but mostly because there are no pools opening, no picnics planned, no graduations, no […]

Posted May 17, 2020 by

Last night I hit a wall. Again. I admit I have hit the wall a few times during this pandemic, but last night was different. All of the feelings hit. The images of cars lined up for hours before the food banks even open, the articles about small businesses that probably won’t survive, the stories […]

Posted May 10, 2020 by

This week has been particularly challenging for a variety of reasons, both physically and emotionally. My friend has texted me every day to see how I am doing and to remind me to be kind to myself. When I read her text yesterday and saw the “be kind” sentiment, I thought yeah, yeah, yeah… be […]