What happens when we really mess up and can’t just rationalize our way out of it? When our inner voice isn’t making a mountain out of a molehill? When our inner voice is taking an actual mountain and adding a shame blizzard of epic proportions?
We all say it, “I feel so anxious.” I am guilty of it too. The term anxiety has become a catch-all for a lot of emotions. It is a socially accepted word for stress, worry, anger, and sadness. We can say “anxiety” and people nod their heads and say “oh, yes, me too.” But no […]
One key to channeling your Biggest Fan is getting into your body. When we can slow down and get into our bodies, we change our perspective. By changing our physical presence, we can see more options and the last step – Kindly pull back to see the big picture – can happen with greater ease.
Earlier last week I found myself spinning with anxiety. I kept saying to myself, “Ok, you need to practice A.S.K.,” so I would acknowledge my feelings (“I am feeling sad and overwhelmed”), and then I would move on to slowing down and getting into my body, and then kindly pulling back to see the big […]
This can be challenging for people with High Functioning Anxiety. We love rules. We love a guide–a simple system that we can follow to the exact letter, making everything feel better.
A.S.K.–my very own 3-step system for reducing your anxiety–appears to do that. It seems to offer a simple solution to our struggles with anxiety.
“What would you say to watching a movie, tonight?” my husband asked on a random Tuesday evening. My first thought was no, we can’t watch a movie — it is a weeknight and we have “shows” to watch on the DVR. But I said, “I don’t want to watch a movie. Why don’t we watch […]
I thought it would be nice to end the month on a conversation with Tonya Dalton, author of The Joy of Missing Out.
Tanya gets it. She understands the struggle. She isn’t about some “all you have to do is follow my system and you will be cured” way of thinking.
As you know, like most of my clients, my BS meter is pretty, and when I was reading Tonya’s book, it was like Tonya was reading my mind. Every objection I had, she had a way to make it approachable and doable.
The turn of the new year was clunky for me. Clunkier than usual. We had a crazy few weeks leading up to the holidays and, of course, the holidays are always crazy (in a fun, seeing family, lots of together time, still overwhelming kind of way), so we took the last week of the year […]
Change is like ascending a spiral stare case that presents us with new challenges the higher we climb. It’s not that we are relearning an old lesson, it’s that through life we are being presented with a new and higher level of that lesson.
In this episode, we’re going to look at how change works and specifically how the concept of Spirally Up can be applied to the life long project of growth and change. How you can step up to new challenges with a new perspective and remind yourself that you aren’t failing–you’re just spiraling up.
Earlier this week, I had a really great day. I had a few work successes and some amazing conversations. All and all it was a good day, but I have to confess, good days are hard for me. Celebrating a win without naming where I can improve is challenging. As I was cooking dinner, I […]
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