Episode 149: How To Recognize Trauma and Show Up for Our Inner Kiddo with Nicole Lewis-Keeber


This word is loaded for so many of us.

When we think of trauma, we think of what we call Big T Traumas: images of war, combat, natural disasters, physical or sexual abuse, terrorism, or catastropic accidents usually come to mind. 

There are also Little T Traumas. These are often personally traumatic because of the timing, the place, or our emotional state: interpersonal conflict, divorce, infidelity, legal trouble, financial worries, moving, and many more. 

Although something could be considered a “Little T” Trauma, that doesn’t mean it’s less traumatic or less damaging. Instead, it allows us to see the word trauma in a different way and realize that it can take on many shapes and forms.

Today on the show, I’m kicking off the month by chatting with Nicole Lewis-Keeber. Nicole is a business therapist and mindset coach who works with entrepreneurs to create and nurture healthy relationships with their businesses. She’s a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with a Masters in Social Work and has a rich and varied experience as a therapist. 

Listen to the full episode to hear:

  • Nicole’s definition of big T trauma and little t trauma and how big T trauma explodes and little T trauma erodes
  • How the personal development culture keeps us trapped by discouraging us from looking at our past
  • Why the phrase “inner child” has gotten so much flack and why being willing to listen to your inner kiddo is so important
  • How our inner kiddos come out in our present-day work and wreak havoc and what we can do about it
  • Nicole’s tips for finding a quality coach or therapist

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