Episode 138: The Catch-22 Of “I Got This”

My Monger is always in my ear, saying: You got this. 

And while, to some, “I got this” might sound like empowered thinking, when it’s coming from my Monger, it certainly is not. 

Instead, it’s a clue that I’m on auto-pilot mode. 

Here’s what I mean:

Recently, after a full day of work, I was making dinner for my husband and doing a load of laundry at the same time. Telling my husband to plate up, I rushed downstairs to “flip a load,” as I call it. 

This is when my Monger started chiming in. “Hurry up!” it said. “You told your husband dinner was ready and now you’re downstairs messing with the laundry!”

And it struck me: I’d worked all day, cooked dinner, and now I was doing laundry—and my Monger was STILL going to shame me for not doing it fast enough?!

Good grief! 

But stories like this are common for me. For years, I lived in that message. I call this the catch-22 of “I got this.”

Listen to the full episode to hear:

  • 3 ways to avoid this endless spiral of “I got this” thinking
  • Why operating on autopilot is harmful—especially with high functioning anxiety
  • How our Monger distorts our perspective
  • And how that can affect our relationship with ourselves and with others


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