Episode 135: The Myth Of The “Right Way”

Today, we’re talking about doing things the “Right Way” and—surprise!—how there’s no such thing. 

Unsurprisingly, many of my clients live for “doing it right.” 

For them, there is nothing more amazing as hearing: Yes, you’re doing it right. In fact, one of the most popular phrases I hear from clients is: I did okay, right? They’re always looking for affirmation that they did it right. 

So why is the need to do things the “Right Way” such a common experience of people with High Functioning Anxiety? 

Doing it right, following the rules, and being a good girl keeps us from criticism. And growing up—either in our family of origin or through school and church—we learned that following the rules earns us LOTS of praise. 

Not only that, but it protects us from the anxiety of not knowing what to do next. It keeps us safe—at least that’s what we convince ourselves of. 

What rules have you created for yourself? Let’s explore this together in this week’s episode and find out what we can do about it. 

Listen to the full episode to hear:

  • Why there is no such thing as doing things the “right way” 
  • How the quest for doing things the “right way” leads to judging others
  • What we miss out on when we constantly try to do things the “right way”
  • How curiosity is key if we’re trying to understand why we’re afraid of getting things wrong


During the pandemic, I’ll be offering a mini version of my Voxer work. Nothing too intense. Nothing too coachy. Just a chance for you to vent, talk about what’s most pressing, and have a neutral third party on the phone for right now. 

I’m calling it Coach In Your Pocket: Just Checking In Version.

Rather than a 3-month commitment to you completely regroup on your anxiety, Coach In Your Pocket: Just Checking In Version is a simple monthly program geared to help you stay sane during this time. 

Voxer is an app you can download to your phone for free that allows you to record a message to me and then I can respond to you during my office hours.

Helping people with High Functioning Anxiety is a personal mission for me. I have a special place in my heart for this struggle because it’s both something I dealt with unknowingly for years, and because it silently affects so many people who think this is just how it is.  

Working with me this way is an incredibly efficient and effective way to deal with your anxiety in the moment–without waiting for your next appointment.

I have been doing this work for over 20 years and Coach in Your Pocket is the most effective and most life-changing work I have ever done. My clients are consistently blown away by how these daily check-ins combined with the monthly face-to-face video meetings create slow, lasting changes that reprogram their High Functioning Anxiety tendencies over time.

We meet once a month for a face-to-face session via a secure video chat, and then throughout the entire three months, you have access to me anytime you are feeling anxious, having a Monger attack, celebrating a win, or just need to check-in, and I will respond to you during my office hours (Monday through Friday, 9 am – 6 pm EST).

Ready to get started? Email me: and we’ll set up a free 30-minute consultation to see if this process is a good fit for you