Episode 129: Avoiding Through Social Media with Founder of SkillsCamp Bailey Parnell

Social media is one of my personal favorite methods of avoiding and as you can imagine it has only gotten worse in recent weeks.

I often find myself obsessively making the rounds on social media: Twitter to Facebook to Instagram to email and back again. Stories about being isolated at home, questioning the seriousness, tips for cooking during a crisis, hoarding TP…

UGH!  This has to stop!

This is a conversation I was having with myself even before the pandemic crisis. It has only gotten worse since the shelter in place orders went down.  

Social media is an amazing catch-22 – it calms your need to be vigilant while simultaneously making you more anxious. 

All this month we have been exploring the ways that avoidance shows itself in relation to anxiety. So far we have talked with Jacquette Timmons about avoidance and money and Erica Drewry about avoidance and food. 

Today we are talking Bailey Parnell about how we engage in avoidance through social media. I am so excited to bring you this eye-opening conversation with Bailey, founder & CEO of SkillsCamp and #safesocial. After Bailey noticed her own abuse of social media she decided to research and learn more about this issue. Her approach to reducing our social media is unique and very doable. 

Listen to the full episode to hear:

  • Why the research that says our anxiety increase with social media is not accurate
  • Why our tendency to demonize social media only makes it worse
  • Baliey’s 5 steps to using social media safely – AKA, Safe Social
  • What to do when you find yourself down the rabbit hole and mindlessly scrolling

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During the pandemic, I’ll be offering a mini version of my Voxer work. Nothing too intense. Nothing too coachy. Just a chance for you to vent, talk about what’s most pressing, and have a neutral third party on the phone for right now. 

I’m calling it Coach In Your Pocket: Just Checking In Version.

Rather than a 3-month commitment to you completely regroup on your anxiety, Coach In Your Pocket: Just Checking In Version is a simple monthly program geared to help you stay sane during this time. 

Voxer is an app you can download to your phone for free that allows you to record a message to me and then I can respond to you during my office hours.

Helping people with High Functioning Anxiety is a personal mission for me. I have a special place in my heart for this struggle because it’s both something I dealt with unknowingly for years, and because it silently affects so many people who think this is just how it is. 

Working with me this way is an incredibly efficient and effective way to deal with your anxiety in the moment–without waiting for your next appointment.

I have been doing this work for over 20 years and Coach in Your Pocket is the most effective and most life-changing work I have ever done. My clients are consistently blown away by how these daily check-ins combined with the monthly face-to-face video meetings create slow, lasting changes that reprogram their High Functioning Anxiety tendencies over time.

We meet once a month for a face-to-face session via a secure video chat, and then throughout the entire three months, you have access to me anytime you are feeling anxious, having a Monger attack, celebrating a win, or just need to check-in, and I will respond to you during my office hours (Monday through Friday, 9 am – 6 pm EST).

Ready to get started? Email me: and we’ll set up a free 30-minute consultation to see if this process is a good fit for you