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The Case for Organized Selfishness


On vacation, my nearest and dearest and I treated ourselves to massages, or as the massage therapist called it Organized Selfishness.  When I heard that term it made me smile all over.  We could all use a little more Organized Selfishness.  When we actively engage in what WE want to do and just being present to ourselves.

Organized Selfishness can take on many different forms:

  • A walk in the park
  • Dinner out
  • Mid-afternoon movie
  • Reading a good book
  • Doing yoga
  • Knitting
  • Sitting on the back deck
  • Cooking a healthy meal
  • Reading the paper in bed
  • Watching your favorite TV show
  • Playing with the kids in the back yard.
  • Listening to your favorite music.
  • Sitting and staring into space.

Basically organized selfishness–is anything YOU enjoy doing.  It doesn’t have to be some a timely expensive event. Organized selfishness is anytime you have chosen to put yourself first. Organized Selfishness is necessary to building anxiety resilience because it gives a chance for your brain to stop and for you to just be present and connected to self.  At first organized selfishness might be challenging, your Mongers might come out to play with the lovely, “Who do you think you are?” mantra.  And you can lovingly remind them that you are a wonderful human being who deserves to take care of yourself.

Hands down the number one complaint of most of my clients is they are doing too much for other people!!  Even more so why the concept of Organized Selfishness is so important.  The tendency is to schedule ourselves last.  So right now, go to your calendar and add in time for Organized Selfishness.

I would love to hear from you in the comments….is Organized Selfishness something you struggle with?  How do you/would you spend your time of Organized Selfishness?

The Live Happier Loft is a great place to implement some Organized Selfishness…Check out what we have coming up this week.

Live Happier Wine Night Dealing with your Inner Critic:  Facing Down Your Mongers:  Thursday September 11th 7-9pm. Grab a friend and your favorite adult beverage and join us for a fun presenation and discussion

Live Happier Book Club:  Saturday, September 13th 11:30 am-1:00pm. September’s Book is Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristen Neff  Join us for a lively discussion and lots of laughter–even if you haven’t read the book–please come.

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