Want to stop losing your cool with those you love?
This post first appeared last September of 2014.
This Thursday we will be discussing the Mongers aka Assholes that live in our head
at week 7 of the Trust Yourself, Already™ Course. For more information click here.
One of my favorite quotes from the Dan Harris 10% Happier book is the first line that says, “I initially wanted to call this book, The Voice in My Head Is an Asshole.” Makes me smile every time.
Because yes, the person living in my head can certainly act like an asshole. AND it is helpful to remember that while that voice is annoying it is a voice.
One way to start dealing with that asshole in your head—is to notice when you are being haunted by it. Over the years I have heard how many people have described their mongers and their wise voice
Here are some ways people have described how they know they are being haunted by the asshole in my head.
- chest pains
- stomach pains
- out of control
Here are some ways people have described their wise voice:
- in control
When we are living with the asshole all the time it is hard to live happier. But the HARDEST part of the Monger is that we believe the voice and we don’t recognize it as an asshole. We believe it is wise and powerful. But something that loves us and looks out for us wouldn’t use shame and fear, as it’s main component.
What do you feel when the asshole is talking? Make a mental note of that so you when you hear your Asshole talking you can smile knowingly and lovingly show it the door.