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As a reminder:
Anxiety, Stress Overwhelm…(whatever your name for the constant need to “go go go”) it is driving you crazy, affecting not only your physical health but your personal life, work life and your overall happiness.
Common signs of this issue:
- Constantly checking your todo list
- The feeling of unworthiness
- Checking and double checking everything
- Always on the go, always something to do “busy, busy, busy”
- Trouble Relaxing even when you have set aside time to relax
- Frequent physical symptoms: Racing heart, headaches, stomach aches, or insomnia (to name a few)
You don’t have to live this way!!! Anxiety can be reduced– I practice these principles and teach them to my clients. If you practice them you too can decrease your anxiety! Here are the final #9-12
Deal with your Mongers:
Your Mongers are those voices in your head telling you how much you suck. These voices create anxiety because while they chatter unconsciously telling you how terrible you are as a mother, wife, sister, daughter, or worker, you become convinced that if you work harder and faster and better you can shut them up. I am here to tell you that you will never shut them up by BEING better because they will always move the bar higher and higher. The only way to out wit your mongers is to face them with loving compassion. To bring them into your awareness, thank them for their concern and lovingly show them the door.
Those of us who deal with anxiety, seldom take time to play because we are constantly doing. No time for play!!! Start making time for play. From laughing with your kids to playing a game, find something you love doing and embrace it. Get dirty, be ridiculous, laugh until your belly hurts, and experience pure joy. When you are engaged in play there is no room for anxiety.
Allot Time for Worry:
Worry can be on a perpetual loop. It becomes so natural that you don’t even realize you are worrying. When we allow time for worrying it serves us in two ways: 1. Gives you permission to worry and feed that loop and then gives you permission to stop. 2. It allows you to experience worrying vs. not worrying. When you are stuck on perpetual worry you don’t even know what if feels like not to worry. So each day allot time to worry, set a timer, write down all you worries and fret as much as you want and then when the timer goes off stop worrying. Throughout the day when you catch yourself worrying lovingly remind yourself that worry time is over and move on (FYI, you might have to remind yourself MANY times throughout the day)
Multitasking is an anxious person’s Achilles Heel. Multi-tasking feeds the desire to get a lot done, be productive and go-go-go. Multi-tasking also naturally causes anxiety because when you are multi-tasking you are completely cut off from your body AND you are doing nothing well. Multi-tasking might make you feel like you are accomplishing a lot but in reality you are just amping yourself up and causing more anxiety. As much as you can, limit yourself to one task at a time.
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I would love to hear from you in the comments: Do you suffer from anxiety? What makes you the most anxious? What do you do to control your anxiety?
Want more information about reducing anxiety? Make sure to read parts 1 and 2. You can also contact me and we can determine the best way to work together to reduce your reactivity to life and start living happier!!
Tomorrow is the Live Happier Wine Night–what a great way to unwind–friendly conversation and a wine tasting. We will be talking about the definition of Trusting Yourself. Join us at The Clubhouse at Brittany Place Condos 3942 Rue de Brittany, Columbus, OH 43221, tomorrow from 7pm-9pm. Get your tickets here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/february-live-happier-wine-night-tickets-10377921643