Want to stop losing your cool with those you love?
“Why can’t we all just get along” a client of mine exclaimed recently. She was referring to the frequency of Facebook posts and articles about the power of introverts. She, an extrovert, was feeling attacked, as if just because she got her energy from being around other people she was a bad, unproductive, obnoxious person. Which is just not true. Just as all Introvert’s aren’t shy all extrovert’s aren’t obnoxious.
The point is that we all bring unique strengths and weaknesses to the table.
The problem is that:
1.We all see the world differently.
2. We all assume everyone see’s the world the way we do.
I love the Myers Briggs assessment and feel it can offer enormous insight into who we are and how we interact with the world. More so, it can offer us huge insight into the fact that not everyone see the world the way we do. The real power of knowing your personality is discovering that there are people in the world who see the world completely differently than you. While I attend a party and can ‘work the room’ the same as my extroverted client, she leaves the party feeling energized and excited because she has taken in all the energy from the people there. While, I leave the party feeling totally drained because as an introvert I didn’t gain any energy from the people, in fact I loss a lot of energy. Neither one of us is better than the other…neither one of us ‘did it right’ we just attend parties differently. AND THAT IS OK. However, the more we know about our partners/friends/co-workers the more we can co-exist in peace and compassion.
It isn’t a competition of who’s type is better…it is about know
I would love to hear from you in the comments…So you agree? How do personality conflicts affect your life? Has understanding your personality type helped or hurt you?
Here are some posts I have written about personality types specifically the Myers Briggs
Interested in learning more about your personality type? Check out my 4 week Getting to Know You Group–starting February 22nd. It will be a deep dive in to the Myers Briggs (assessment included) giving you a deeper understanding of you and those around you.