Want to stop losing your cool with those you love?
As we head into the Thanksgiving Holiday I wanted to write a quick post to give you some reminders/tips for decreasing anxiety at your Thanksgiving table. Just because they are family doesn’t mean we love being with them for extended periods of time 🙂
Make a plan. Not just arrival times and what to bring, but a plan on what to do when it is getting too stressful. Such as key phrase or gesture you can say to your spouse when you are DONE. A reminder to yourself that it is ok to leave, take a walk, head to the basement etc. Just because you have ALWAYS done something a certain way doesn’t mean you have to do it that way this year.
Have compassion. If you do nothing else tomorrow…have compassion, for yourself and those around you. Family’s put the buttons there in the first place so they certainly know how to push them. Give yourself a break. One of my favorite mantras is “They are doing the best they can with what they have.” It is a phrase I repeat A LOT around the holidays and a loving reminder to myself as well.
Pay attention to the little things. Throughout the day, pause, breathe and notice the little things. Your child’s laughter, your husbands smile, your father’s hug, the taste of the mash potatoes etc. I found it helpful to set an alarm my phone—and each time I hear the chime I am reminded to pause, breathe and notice. Anytime you can slow down and notice what is happening around you, you will be reducing your anxiety.
Wishing you and your family a very Happy Thanksgiving.
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