Want to stop losing your cool with those you love?
One thing that always strikes me about teaching the concepts of Living Happier is the disparity between how easily they are described and how challenging they are to live.
I always say Living Happier is a continuum on one end is the ideal: boundary holding, non-people pleasing, embraces conflict with ease and loving handles her Mongers. And on the other side is the no boundaries because she is too busy people pleasing and scared to death of conflict and gets beaten up daily by her Mongers. Obviously, I teach from the idea viewpoint, and there is A LOT of room between the ideal and the other side…and we all fall somewhere on that continuum…varying each and every day.
Frequently because I teach this stuff, people assume I constantly live on the ideal end (oh, I wish), and while I try to live out the concepts I teach, I rarely live them ideally, because I am human. The beauty of Living Happier is sharing those stories, sharing our challenges and victories as we move up and down the continuum. There is no perfect way to Live Happier.
However, I have been thinking about what type of world it would be if more people were living closer to the ideal end of that continuum which led me to these thoughts.
I want to live in a world where…
we have honest conversations about topics that matter. Complete with laughter and tears and lots of chocolate cake.
random acts of kindness aren’t a unique special idea but something each of us does every single day without thinking.
listening and empathy come first.
advice giving and one size fit all solutions is not the norm.
we recognize that standing up for ourselves, setting boundaries and taking up space in the world is worth fighting for even though it can be challenging and downright uncomfortable.
grace and forgiveness come before blame and judgment
we lovingly support each other in our individual journeys; even when they are different from our own.
numbing out and disconnecting from ourselves is not a way of life.
we recognize we are all in this together.
sharing with a friend (or therapist) isn’t a sign of weakness but a sign of strength.
feeling sad, angry, lost or scared is ok and not something we need to fix but allow ourselves to experience from time to time.
this is a process and very messy process. Full of failures, challenges, success, and joy.
and while I am at it: there is plenty of time to get lost in a good book, chocolate cake is good for you and we can instantly travel to see friends who live in far away.
I am hoping to add to these as the days/weeks go by, and I give it more thought.
What about you? What type of world do you want to live in? I would love to hear from you in the comments, or you can send me an email.