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Getting a Tune Up.

Getting a Tune Up

One thing I love about my job is watching people grow over time.  Having clients return and share how they have grown and where they are struggling. My counseling model is one of co-creating.  I don’t tell clients how many sessions they will need to be ‘healed’; I don’t give them an exact action plan. While my style is direct, practical and straight forward, I am a HUGE believer in individual process. So at the end of each session we decide together how to move forward.  Frequently clients come to me we work through things for a few sessions and then they go out in to the world and practice what we are working on.  And then months, even years later they come back to me having spiraled up to a new place on their journey.  And so we chat, we work through things and then they go out into the world to practice what we are working on. I call this the ‘tune-up’ model. Every now and then we all need a little tune up.

I love the tune up model.  The idea that as we grow we have people that we can come back to, touch base with who know our story, know where we have been and will hold our hand as we move to the next place.  Someone who might be a few steps ahead of us or even miles ahead of us but is willing to go back in their journey and stand with us as we move forward. And I am blessed and honored when clients choose me to be that person who helps them continually spiral up.

The place I see my clients and myself get stuck is when we beat ourselves up for needing more help.  When we see the tune up as a failure because we have the belief that we ultimately can be fixed.  While I believe we can grow, learn and change, fixed permanently not really an option.  We can find a solution. We can limit anxiety, quiet mongers and learn how to set boundaries. We can go out into the world feeling excited and refreshed at what we have learned.  And then we hit a wall, we are asked by the world to set a different kind of boundary, or we have experience a monger that knocks us to our knees.  That doesn’t mean we have failed.  That doesn’t mean we have gone backwards.  Rather, we have expanded to the next spiral.  We have moved up to the next level and now we are dealing with what may feel like simliar issues that we had before but on a much higher (more complex) level.  That place, is when we need to reach out for help.

So the next time you hit the wall and you feel like you have failed and feel like you are learning the same lesson over and over.  Remind yourself that you might just need a tune up, a check-in, a helping hand to guide you to the next spiral.  Remember it is all part of the process.  It is all part of learning, and growing and being your best self.

I would love to hear from you in the comments.  Who do you go to when you need a tune up?  Have you ever experienced spiraling up?  Does the idea of needing to be ‘fixed’ resonate with you?

 

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For those living in Central Ohio, next Thursday the 25th I will be speaking at the Women who Wine event at Wyandotte Winery.  For the cost of $20 you get 2 glasses of wine, hor d’ourves and a presentation by me on Simple Ways to Live Happier.  Advanced registration is required.  To register or for more information go to:  http://www.wyandottewinery.com/scripts/eventPg.cfm/_/431/Women-Who-Wine/

Hope to see you there!.

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