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Frequently when I tell someone “I help people reduce their anxiety” I am met with the response, “Oh I totally need that…I have so much anxiety.” Followed by an ever so subtle smile of pride. I remember that smile of pride. I remember wearing my anxiety as a badge of honor…and unfortunately we are living in a society that encourages that belief.
The belief is that anxiety:
- makes me grouchy, exhausted and stressed out BUT it makes me productive.
- disconnects me from my friends and family BUT I get a lot done.
- leaves me with indigestion, headaches, neck pain BUT I am seen as having it all together.
Anxiety can be a result of neuro-biological hard wiring: I come from a long line of anxiety sufferers.
Anxiety is a habit. We can become addicted to the ‘high’ anxiety gives us of being productive, accomplishing a lot and looking ‘all together’. But at what price? Our health? Our relationships?
Anxiety is not something to be glorified–it is something to build resiliency around.
The more I work with helping people live happier the more I believe that living happier comes through authentic living. Authentic living means being able to say:
- I am tired, I was up all night getting that report done because I procrastinated all last week.
- I look together but I eat antacids like they are snickers bars..
- we look like we are fine financially, but I was up last night worrying what are we going to do about retirement?
Anxiety resiliency starts with admitting that anxiety IS NOT SERVING YOU. (true confession-it took me a long time to admit that.) But once I did I started building a life of anxiety resilience. Take off the Badge of Anxiety and let’s strive for a Badge of Authenticity.
Next Thursday, August 28th, I will be talking more about Building Anxiety Resilience at Wine Night at the Loft. I hope to see you there.
I just published an e-book: 12 Tips to Reduce Anxiety and Live Happier. These are the tips I have used in my own life to build anxiety resilience. Check it out here.